Thursday, December 16, 2010

Confessions Of A Successful Online Dater

So I have been asking a lot of dating questions lately to pretty much everyone I know and I was pleasantly surprised by one fact. There are a lot of people who are trying online dating. This is fantastic because people are realizing there are other wonderful human beings outside their little community bubble. I recently had a chat with one of my co-works Angie who is now in a successful marriage, but it all started with online dating. After falling completely in love with her love story I decided she would be the perfect one to give me tips about how to have a successful online dating experience. Here's what she had to say.

  1. Be yourself. "It sounds so cliche' but it's so true!" - Angie. Really it makes complete sense to be exactly who you are. If you end up thinking you have a true connection with someone you can't say "oh, well who I have been acting like really isn't me at all," and hope to salvage the relationship. Be yourself from the beginning and then build from there. 
  2. Be smart and safe. From what I understand there are A LOT of creepers out there on the Internet trying to manipulate stupid women. Angie used a fake name and this is something I would very much recommend. You can find so much information about someone through their name these days. It pays to be safe. Yes, this kinda goes against the be yourself, but really, you can very easily clear up why you chose a different name... not a different personality. 
  3. Be aware of creeps. This is pretty much self explanatory. Follow Rule #2. 
  4. Have a quick get away or go someplace where you know the staff.  Angie decided to meet her blind date at a local bar where she knew all the employees. That way if she waved her menu in the air they would come to her rescue. This is a smart idea for the "30 something hunk with a little beer belly" that turns out to be the "55 year old man with a yellow, stained beard and a nappy tooth."
Online dating can be a creepy experience, but when done right you might just find the love of your life and have some wonderful traveling in your future! 

3 comments:

  1. Lol this makes me laugh! I have had quite a few friends try online dating. Some successful, some not so successful. One friend had a 'successful' online boyfriend for two years. They talked on the phone, sent pictures to one another, he was an artist and drew pictures for her, mailing them to her.

    She lived in Germany where her father was stationed, originally living in Ohio. The cyber boyfriend lived here in Ohio, and she planned on flying back to the state to finally meet.

    When she got off the plane... her 'boyfriend' was a lesbian with a deep voice. She used some random guy's Myspace pictures. She wanted to tell my friend, but just couldn't do it.

    This is a PERFECT example of all four. Be yourself. Be smart and safe. Be aware of creeps. Have a quick get away or go someplace where you know the staff.

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