Tip of the Day

When You Think It's Done... It's Done.

Dating can sometimes feel like you're training for a marathon. You put in so much time and effort into something that should be rewarding and fun, but sometimes it just doesn't turn out that way. What people need to realize is that no one person is your "perfect match." That is why dating is so essential because you need to know what you like or dislike in a relationship. If you have gotten to the point where it feels more like a factory line job, doing the same routine everyday and you are both miserable... then bow out. It could be the best thing for both of you. Now, I'm not saying to give up at the slightest malfunction, but if you have been giving it a try for awhile and its not working, cut your losses. When you feel like it's done, then its done. 

Are You A Bad Dater?

There are as many type of daters out there as there are stars in the sky, but there are some general categories  you could fall into. If you find that you are unsuccessful at dating there could be a multitude of reasons why, but I'm confident there are some easy solutions. First, you need to identify what kind of dater you are. Since there are several I'm going to mention the top three most popular types.

1. The Reluctant Dater.  You are the lost soul that second guesses everything about dating. You have a hard time even putting yourself out there to begin with because you view dating as this big, black hole that might suck you in and never let your miserable soul back out again. 
2. The Nervous Dater. You are someone who gets so nervous about the thought of putting yourself out there that sheer panic tends to make you miss out on golden opportunities. Once you do put yourself out into the dating scene you tend to freeze during those perfect moments to show your witty sense of humor. Then you spend the rest of the date replaying that moment in your head and thinking what you "wish" you would have said and imagining the charming laugh from your date.
3. The Fall-Back Dater. You are always falling back into the same bland relationships with the same bland types of people. You know how to handle those types and, either think you don't deserve a better type or you aren't confident enough to know you do deserve a better type. 

If any of these types remotely describe what you go through when you think about yourself dating then you need a little help to get you out of your bad habits.  I think most people just need a little back-up from someone who knows tips to help them navigate their way through a very exciting time in their lives.

If you find yourself in any of these three categories please contact me for helpful tips to put you on the right track.