Tip Of The Day

The Longer You Wait...

... the more opportunities will arise around you. This has just as much to do about life as with love. I do realize that at some point you will need to take the plunge into a commitment, but why rush it?

So have fun finding all the best qualities you like in different people and start to make your mental list of qualities you want in a life partner. It's a good time.. trust me.

Tip of the Day: Self- Esteem

Self-Esteem = A Date.

"Your lost self-esteem may take longer to find than a new boyfriend, so prioritize accordingly." 

This is the quote of the day because it is dead on! How are you supposed to have a healthy, happy relationship if you don't have a healthy, happy self. Take some time for yourself. Once you have figured out your best self, then prepare to launch it on the unsuspecting world. You'll feel powerful and ready for to date.  

He's Just Not That Into You

Due to a recent overload of lost souls inquiring about relationships that involve constant worrying... this is for you. I find the book "he's just not that into you" very helpful. I realized they made it into a movie, but the book is more direct and quite good. Here are some excerpts:

#14 Don't waste the pretty.

# 17 A person would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you they just aren't that into you.

# 53 Is a phone call just a phone call, or is it really the almighty representation of how much he really cares about you? Probably somewhere in the middle. And a good man will know that and use this handy telecommunication device accordingly. E-mails need not apply.

# 64 You deserve a f***ing phone call.

# 178 Cut them off. Let them miss you.

( My personal favorite) # 215 You are not easily forgotten. Let him/her find you when they're ready. Until then.. move on.

I might just keep these coming every once in awhile as a reminder.... YOU ARE WORTH THE FUSS!!!

Tip of the Day

The Relationship Checkup

As with most things its smart to check up on it every once in a while to see if it's running smoothly. Your relationships aren't any different. Take some time out of your busy schedule to sit down and discuss how you think everything is going. As you should know communication is key. So make sure its a conversation done in a comfortable setting and that it isn't meant to be a battle ground. Keep an open mind and this is not the time to attack your partner with something that has been building up for years (unless you give them a little advanced warning). Focus on the positives, as well. 

Tip of the Day

Want To Test The Chemistry? Just Dance. 

Think you have chemistry with a co-work? Classmate? Neighbor? Invite them to dance. Maybe not in the middle of the yard, but a proven good way to see if chemistry is there is through dancing... and I mean the goooood kind of dance. The most popular choice is Salsa dancing because of the passionate moves and constant movement. So next time you want to see if the feelings are mutual hit up a Salsa club for some one on one research. 

The New 7 Year Itch

I recently read in an article that the "3 Year Glitch" has replaced the "7 year itch." Apparently in these modern times people are so rushed that they also rush through the stages. What you might have first thought of as quirky is sooner rather than later... annoying. All those little habits like snoring, twitching, sneezing, and picking that you thought you could live with and even laughed about have become the bane of your existence. I really do find it sad that these days people just seem to get tired of one another quicker. Plus it is easier to replace the accustomed "annoying" back to the "quirky" really quickly. To all of you get towards that 3 year glitch just keep in mind the new model you might want to upgrade to will eventually become the annoying someday. Stay invested and create boundaries you can both live with happily.

Comments 3 year glitch survivors???