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The Relationship Checkup

As with most things its smart to check up on it every once in a while to see if it's running smoothly. Your relationships aren't any different. Take some time out of your busy schedule to sit down and discuss how you think everything is going. As you should know communication is key. So make sure its a conversation done in a comfortable setting and that it isn't meant to be a battle ground. Keep an open mind and this is not the time to attack your partner with something that has been building up for years (unless you give them a little advanced warning). Focus on the positives, as well. 

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Want To Test The Chemistry? Just Dance. 

Think you have chemistry with a co-work? Classmate? Neighbor? Invite them to dance. Maybe not in the middle of the yard, but a proven good way to see if chemistry is there is through dancing... and I mean the goooood kind of dance. The most popular choice is Salsa dancing because of the passionate moves and constant movement. So next time you want to see if the feelings are mutual hit up a Salsa club for some one on one research. 

The New 7 Year Itch

I recently read in an article that the "3 Year Glitch" has replaced the "7 year itch." Apparently in these modern times people are so rushed that they also rush through the stages. What you might have first thought of as quirky is sooner rather than later... annoying. All those little habits like snoring, twitching, sneezing, and picking that you thought you could live with and even laughed about have become the bane of your existence. I really do find it sad that these days people just seem to get tired of one another quicker. Plus it is easier to replace the accustomed "annoying" back to the "quirky" really quickly. To all of you get towards that 3 year glitch just keep in mind the new model you might want to upgrade to will eventually become the annoying someday. Stay invested and create boundaries you can both live with happily.

Comments 3 year glitch survivors???

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When You Think It's Done... It's Done.

Dating can sometimes feel like you're training for a marathon. You put in so much time and effort into something that should be rewarding and fun, but sometimes it just doesn't turn out that way. What people need to realize is that no one person is your "perfect match." That is why dating is so essential because you need to know what you like or dislike in a relationship. If you have gotten to the point where it feels more like a factory line job, doing the same routine everyday and you are both miserable... then bow out. It could be the best thing for both of you. Now, I'm not saying to give up at the slightest malfunction, but if you have been giving it a try for awhile and its not working, cut your losses. When you feel like it's done, then its done. 

Are You A Bad Dater?

There are as many type of daters out there as there are stars in the sky, but there are some general categories  you could fall into. If you find that you are unsuccessful at dating there could be a multitude of reasons why, but I'm confident there are some easy solutions. First, you need to identify what kind of dater you are. Since there are several I'm going to mention the top three most popular types.

1. The Reluctant Dater.  You are the lost soul that second guesses everything about dating. You have a hard time even putting yourself out there to begin with because you view dating as this big, black hole that might suck you in and never let your miserable soul back out again. 
2. The Nervous Dater. You are someone who gets so nervous about the thought of putting yourself out there that sheer panic tends to make you miss out on golden opportunities. Once you do put yourself out into the dating scene you tend to freeze during those perfect moments to show your witty sense of humor. Then you spend the rest of the date replaying that moment in your head and thinking what you "wish" you would have said and imagining the charming laugh from your date.
3. The Fall-Back Dater. You are always falling back into the same bland relationships with the same bland types of people. You know how to handle those types and, either think you don't deserve a better type or you aren't confident enough to know you do deserve a better type. 

If any of these types remotely describe what you go through when you think about yourself dating then you need a little help to get you out of your bad habits.  I think most people just need a little back-up from someone who knows tips to help them navigate their way through a very exciting time in their lives.

If you find yourself in any of these three categories please contact me for helpful tips to put you on the right track. 

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Momma Said There'll Be Days Like This... 

Some of us were just blessed with mothers who seem to know or want to know everything about your life... even dating. And most likely somewhere along the line you did go crying to someone "mother" like when your heart was broken or things just weren't going right. My mother always said "There are other fish in the sea," and she was right. (Thanks MKS.) Just because your relationship/ dating experience didn't work out the way you want, don't crawl into a hole. Pick yourself up, reevaluate what you really want your significant other to be like, and then have fun trying to find them. So, Thanks MOM!

Just Play!

While SORRY!, LIFE, Scrabble, and UNO are all really fun games to play with your date, I would suggest picking up a console. There are so many games to choose from these days you should be able to choose one that incorporates both of your tastes. My advice would be to play a video game of some sort for a third or fourth date. By that time you should have at least 1. met in public and 2. done something that you both have in common or at least one of you is passionate about. The next date should be cozy, relaxed, and fun, BUT not boring or awkward (i.e. movie on the couch) Side Note: I discourage inviting someone over during the first few dates for a movie because it doesn't allow you to learn anything new about the other person. It just creates an atmosphere charged with nervous energy and awkward silence. Plus you will be thinking "What happens after the movie?" the entire time during the movie... so what's the point. 

Solution: Gaming. 

Being able to add a competitive edge to your date will show how your chemistry has evolved. By this point you will be comfortable to be more playful with each other. So jump on the couch or get active with the Wii Controllers and have a great time egging each other on. And remember to not be a sore loser even if you are super competitive. They don't need to find that out till after you're dating and think your already adorable enough to keep around.