It's That Time Of Year Again

Now that the days are getting warmer it's time to get out in the world and do some relationship building activities. Hopefully, you have spent the last 6 months snuggled under warm blankets taking the time to really enjoy the closeness. But, more than likely you have cabin fever and can't wait to get out and do your own thing. So here are some cheap ways to reconnect and have a great time doing it!

1. Fly a kite. ( I haven't done this in forever until a few weeks ago and I had so much fun with Caleb it has become one of my favorite memories so far this spring.) 
2. Take a walk and plan activities you want to try this summer. (My Goal: Zip-line course in Hocking Hills) 
3. Find a friend with a pool. (Lounging/ splashing around by the pool, drinking a beer, and not worrying about other people's kids screaming everywhere... sounds heavenly.) 
4. Test drive nice cars with no intention to buy. (This advice came from my incredibly, amazing aunt. If you have no intention of buying you aren't thinking about anything other than how sexy you and your love look in this beautiful car. Very fun.. trust me.)  
5. Play a sport together that you both suck at. (Caleb and I recently realized we both suck at tennis so we spent a hilarious afternoon laughing while trying and it was a great workout.) 

Have a great time!!

An Issue I Must Address....

The "But I've Gotten Fat" Excuse.

"I definitely think you should lose 175 pounds- in the form of your loser boyfriend/girlfriend.

Their using your weight as an excuse for cheating is not only mean, but simply not valid. If they have a problem with anything in your relationship, they are supposed to talk to you about it, not put-his-penis-in-a-strange-vagina about it (or vice versa)." - He's just not that into you. 

There is never a good enough excuse to let cheating be acceptable. Ditch the jerk and take time to figure out what you really need in a good relationship.

Tip Of The Day

The Longer You Wait...

... the more opportunities will arise around you. This has just as much to do about life as with love. I do realize that at some point you will need to take the plunge into a commitment, but why rush it?

So have fun finding all the best qualities you like in different people and start to make your mental list of qualities you want in a life partner. It's a good time.. trust me.

Tip of the Day: Self- Esteem

Self-Esteem = A Date.

"Your lost self-esteem may take longer to find than a new boyfriend, so prioritize accordingly." 

This is the quote of the day because it is dead on! How are you supposed to have a healthy, happy relationship if you don't have a healthy, happy self. Take some time for yourself. Once you have figured out your best self, then prepare to launch it on the unsuspecting world. You'll feel powerful and ready for to date.  

He's Just Not That Into You

Due to a recent overload of lost souls inquiring about relationships that involve constant worrying... this is for you. I find the book "he's just not that into you" very helpful. I realized they made it into a movie, but the book is more direct and quite good. Here are some excerpts:

#14 Don't waste the pretty.

# 17 A person would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you they just aren't that into you.

# 53 Is a phone call just a phone call, or is it really the almighty representation of how much he really cares about you? Probably somewhere in the middle. And a good man will know that and use this handy telecommunication device accordingly. E-mails need not apply.

# 64 You deserve a f***ing phone call.

# 178 Cut them off. Let them miss you.

( My personal favorite) # 215 You are not easily forgotten. Let him/her find you when they're ready. Until then.. move on.

I might just keep these coming every once in awhile as a reminder.... YOU ARE WORTH THE FUSS!!!

Tip of the Day

The Relationship Checkup

As with most things its smart to check up on it every once in a while to see if it's running smoothly. Your relationships aren't any different. Take some time out of your busy schedule to sit down and discuss how you think everything is going. As you should know communication is key. So make sure its a conversation done in a comfortable setting and that it isn't meant to be a battle ground. Keep an open mind and this is not the time to attack your partner with something that has been building up for years (unless you give them a little advanced warning). Focus on the positives, as well. 

Tip of the Day

Want To Test The Chemistry? Just Dance. 

Think you have chemistry with a co-work? Classmate? Neighbor? Invite them to dance. Maybe not in the middle of the yard, but a proven good way to see if chemistry is there is through dancing... and I mean the goooood kind of dance. The most popular choice is Salsa dancing because of the passionate moves and constant movement. So next time you want to see if the feelings are mutual hit up a Salsa club for some one on one research.